Accident with swordand sons friend and ensuing wife fall out

gp · 9th May 2023, 05:45 PM

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Originally Posted by Bob A

No need for the bin. Pack it all up and send it to me. I'll gladly cover shipping.

The boss, that’s my wife, doesn’t like my Bichaq and Yataghan collection,
yet her tongue is deadlier and faster than an AK47 Kalashnikov …
and sharper than a cakija…( Bosnian knife)

Can I pack her up and send her to you? i’ll gladly cover shipping….

BR

Gunar

fernando · 9th May 2023, 07:32 PM

My wife is not the problem. She doesn't doesn't appreciate antique weapons but lives quite well with such tastes of mine. The daughter is grown up and away, so no problem there, either. So i am free to fill the dining room walls and shelves with my pieces; some space left for a couple paintings.
So the only precaution i must take is to prevent the pointy ones from hurting the cats, when they are on their way.

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asomotif · 9th May 2023, 10:50 PM

Hello Ken,

Well, that is an unfortunate accident/incident for sure.
Although your son will probably be in puberty and part of the brain seems to turn into useless jelly during that period, I am sure this will be a lesson he will remember. Can it ease your wife's mind when there is a lock on the study ?

Personally I have a wall of spears in the living room. When my daughter was small I also had a basket full of klewang in the living. This never caused any problems. Also not with visiting kids. My daughter (18 yrs now) just confirmed that her friends are sometimes sort of impressed by the collection of spears, but they (fortunately) never show any intentions to fool around with them.

Interesting is that my wife has no problems with the weapons.
The wall of spears was in fact her idea. We have mandau's on display which she basiccaly likes. She does not like keris or rentjong and klewang, so they are in the attic.
Years ago I discovered that she really does not like fire arms.
I bought a blunderbuss from Atjeh and she was very clear on that one. I am not into fire arms myself, so it was never discussed before, but the blunderbuss had to go. My wife explained that to her this was a weapon designed to kill people....
Ok, I almost made the mistake of explaining her that the other weapons originally has a similar purpose

I wish you good luck finding a solution.

Best regards,
Willem

RAMBA · 10th May 2023, 12:03 PM

A cabin in the woods for yourself and collection only.

TVV · 10th May 2023, 05:56 PM

Jokes aside, this is a serious topic.

If I were you Ken, I would look at this as an opportunity to reevaluate and restructure my collection. I am not sure exactly where the line is between collecting and hoarding, but one test is perhaps the ability to let go of things. If you go through your collection with a more critical eye, there will probably be certain items that you may not want to keep. You can sell those and use the proceeds to buy fewer items, but of superior quality.

By trading quantity for quality, it would give your wife and others a sense of thinning of the collection, though from your point of view you would not be losing anything. A smaller collection can then be stored in a more secure place easier.

When it comes to emotional reactions, often showing an attempt to fix a situation is more important than actually fixing it, and should calm the situation down faster than if you try to downplay what happened.

Richard G · 10th May 2023, 07:19 PM

Most unfortunate, but not a disaster!
Clean and oil, and the sword will be fine.
Best wishes,
Richard

Rick · 10th May 2023, 10:56 PM

There are companies that make locking free standing cases for the display of weapons, long guns etc. Or maybe you have a talented furniture maker you can contact in your area, Ken.
Even a tall bookcase that someone could make locking glass doors for.
We have places in the US that sell unfinished furniture; I have three 84 inch tall by 36 inch wide bookcases that would probably serve your needs for size. I'm sure you can probably find someone in your area that could fabricate doors for such a piece. Mine are used for books, but with a bit of modification that might be an answer.

9th May 2023, 07:32 PM	#2
fernando (deceased) Join Date: Dec 2004 Location: Portugal Posts: 9,694	My wife is not the problem. She doesn't doesn't appreciate antique weapons but lives quite well with such tastes of mine. The daughter is grown up and away, so no problem there, either. So i am free to fill the dining room walls and shelves with my pieces; some space left for a couple paintings. So the only precaution i must take is to prevent the pointy ones from hurting the cats, when they are on their way. . Attached Images

9th May 2023, 10:50 PM	#3
asomotif Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: The Netherlands Posts: 2,235	Hello Ken, Well, that is an unfortunate accident/incident for sure. Although your son will probably be in puberty and part of the brain seems to turn into useless jelly during that period, I am sure this will be a lesson he will remember. Can it ease your wife's mind when there is a lock on the study ? Personally I have a wall of spears in the living room. When my daughter was small I also had a basket full of klewang in the living. This never caused any problems. Also not with visiting kids. My daughter (18 yrs now) just confirmed that her friends are sometimes sort of impressed by the collection of spears, but they (fortunately) never show any intentions to fool around with them. Interesting is that my wife has no problems with the weapons. The wall of spears was in fact her idea. We have mandau's on display which she basiccaly likes. She does not like keris or rentjong and klewang, so they are in the attic. Years ago I discovered that she really does not like fire arms. I bought a blunderbuss from Atjeh and she was very clear on that one. I am not into fire arms myself, so it was never discussed before, but the blunderbuss had to go. My wife explained that to her this was a weapon designed to kill people.... Ok, I almost made the mistake of explaining her that the other weapons originally has a similar purpose I wish you good luck finding a solution. Best regards, Willem

10th May 2023, 12:03 PM	#4
RAMBA Member Join Date: Apr 2019 Posts: 102	A cabin in the woods for yourself and collection only.

10th May 2023, 05:56 PM	#5
TVV Member Join Date: Dec 2004 Location: Bay Area Posts: 1,664	Jokes aside, this is a serious topic. If I were you Ken, I would look at this as an opportunity to reevaluate and restructure my collection. I am not sure exactly where the line is between collecting and hoarding, but one test is perhaps the ability to let go of things. If you go through your collection with a more critical eye, there will probably be certain items that you may not want to keep. You can sell those and use the proceeds to buy fewer items, but of superior quality. By trading quantity for quality, it would give your wife and others a sense of thinning of the collection, though from your point of view you would not be losing anything. A smaller collection can then be stored in a more secure place easier. When it comes to emotional reactions, often showing an attempt to fix a situation is more important than actually fixing it, and should calm the situation down faster than if you try to downplay what happened.

10th May 2023, 07:19 PM	#6
Richard G Member Join Date: Jan 2012 Posts: 411	Most unfortunate, but not a disaster! Clean and oil, and the sword will be fine. Best wishes, Richard

10th May 2023, 10:56 PM	#7
Rick Vikingsword Staff Join Date: Nov 2004 Posts: 6,339	There are companies that make locking free standing cases for the display of weapons, long guns etc. Or maybe you have a talented furniture maker you can contact in your area, Ken. Even a tall bookcase that someone could make locking glass doors for. We have places in the US that sell unfinished furniture; I have three 84 inch tall by 36 inch wide bookcases that would probably serve your needs for size. I'm sure you can probably find someone in your area that could fabricate doors for such a piece. Mine are used for books, but with a bit of modification that might be an answer.